Making Every Moment Count

Most folks I know realized life is short somewhere between 25 and 50. The precious nature of time becomes apparent. This often arrives in tandem with the loss of older kin and the acknowledgement of our mortality. My focus here will be primarily on relationships, not on accomplishments. Three areas are worthy of spotlight: shared activity, revealed feelings and generosity. Making every moment count is about living life to the fullest. The more we do with our loved ones the better. Let suggestions for shared pursuits, pastimes and entertainment flow freely. People can always decline and will let us know if we have too many ideas- an opportunity, however, may not present itself again. I think back to people I've lost and friends who have moved away and think- "I am so glad we did that together!". Grab that notion of fun or meaning and say it out loud. Proposals for action do not result in regret- at least you asked. If you feel something good about someone-tell them. The thought  might require some tailoring prior to sharing, but sincere compliments cement relationships. Saying "Thank You" out loud is also category. It means more to us than most will admit. Even in today's digital world, a thank you note or "Think of you" card can make the day or even week of another soul. One of my aunts calls me in delight every single time I snail mail her. We laugh on the phone and the series of interactions amplify. Sharing things with people is gratifying. Giving things to people who need them is helpful and liberating. I have been told I help others too much, but do we really want to err on the side of helping too little? Sharing by comrades is bonding and extended outward creates the web of community. Relish that hug as you part, make that call when you think of them, cut those flowers to bring to the party or give them that object they complimented. Impulses that are real and join us to others are some of the jewels of existence.